I’ve never written about this before so be patient and get a cup of coffee or something. This might be a long story but I feel that it’s important for you to know who I am and how I became a Coach. You may or may not see yourself in some part of my story. Either way, I’m sure you can relate on some level.
I had been searching for as long as I could remember. Searching for what, I’m not quite sure. Something that would make me feel better about me. Make me fit in. Stop the pain and the doubt. Even though I appeared to fit in and have it all together on the outside, I was suffering and just going through the motions on the inside.
I had what is, a pretty typical childhood. I say typical because most of the people I meet and talk to have had similar experiences and disappointments. It wasn’t pretty by most standards but it was what I knew. Both of my parents were alcoholics. They were too caught up in their own disease and world of fear to notice me, let alone nurture and teach me. I also experienced physical abuse when my father was particularly angry and intoxicated. I always felt invisible and unimportant.
These experiences shaped me in both positive and negative ways. It’s unavoidable. You may think you came out unscathed but you didn’t. We just develop very clever ways of getting through the fear and dealing with the emotional pain and self doubt that it causes.
I became an overachiever and perfectionist. This served me for a long time. I did well in school and was always considered the “smart” one in my family. This really didn’t sit well with me. I knew I wasn’t any smarter than anyone else. As a matter of fact, I felt stupid most of the time. I worried that if people really knew me, they wouldn’t like me. Smart was just a lie and a mask that I wore to fit in and look normal.
The problems started appearing more frequently as I got older. I wasn’t happy and suffered from pretty extreme self-doubt. The perfectionist thing just got me into trouble on the job when I couldn’t seem to get anything completed or tried to hold others to my standard. The feeling invisible led me to act out in inappropriate ways. Feeling unimportant made me want to do anything to get noticed and seem important. I became a know-it-all and a bulldozer. I would just mow people down in order to get my way or get noticed. I was very unhappy and probably not very well liked.
Through a series of events, I discovered Life Coaching. I had never even heard of a Life Coach. I was intrigued and wanted more information. I began reading Fearless Living, By Rhonda Britten. This book was the catalyst for me beginning the changes I wanted in my life. I eventually entered the coaching program at the Fearless Living Institute and learned from Rhonda Britten and her staff of coaches. Starting this process of working with a coach and learning how to coach others, absolutely and permanently changed me.
I am now the confident person that everyone thought I was so long ago. I believe in myself and know what my talents and gifts are. I use them without apology. I still have fear and doubt sometimes. That will never go away. The difference is that now I have some very powerful tools to use when fear and doubt creep in.
My wish is for you to have peace of mind, confidence, joy and happiness in your life and stop pretending that everything is ok. Stop going through the motions and really begin to enjoy who you are. It is possible and I am living proof. If I can do it, you can do it.
The boring, official Bio:
Vicki Garcia, your Kick Ass Coach, is dedicated to helping you face your fear. Why fear? Because that’s what most challenges and obstacles are rooted in. Vicki is a certified Fearless Living Coach and understands change can be scary. So, you’ll have an amazing Coach with over 2 years of intense training and 7+ years of hands-on coaching experience to guide you along your journey. Down to earth and non-judgmental, Vicki’s goal is not to ‘fix’ her clients, but to show them areas of their life they can make better or easier, and collaborate with them to make those changes take place.
If you’re ready to take action, then Vicki is ready for you! She aims for a 100% commitment from her clients – the desire to ‘go with whatever comes up’ and face it head on. She instills a sense of, “I can do this!” and will admittedly “kick their ass” with compassion to get to the root cause of an issue. Excellent at seeing patterns in people’s lives, Vicki understands the need to get to core issues before you can make fundamental changes. As a promise to her clients that they’ll benefit from her coaching if they commit to doing the work, Vicki even offers a 100% Happiness Guarantee!
A corporate refugee who spent over a decade in the bio-tech industry, and armed with a degree in Biology, Vicki is a Coach who uses brain science, Leadership and Management best practices and kick ass coaching principles to help her clients reach their goals. She’s a real person who deals with many of the same challenges they do – kids, spouses, pets and a busy household – and she’s constantly striving to ‘up level’ her life and help you do the same with yours!
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