I've returned to a place that I've visited quite a few times in the past few months. I'm not happy about being here and I know there is a powerful lesson to be learned from it. So, in order to process and learn from it, I thought I would share it with you in a blog post.
So, where am I? I'm at the corner of, "I want things to be different" and "Irritation about everything". I do not like this place! I don't want to be here – again!
What I know to be true: I am resisting what IS instead of doing what I CAN do. This is showing up in how I react to my daily experiences (both big and small). Spending time and energy on resisting is exhausting and just makes me more irritated about the situation.
I can either continue to resist, which would be a pretty dis-empowering choice considering I am aware of what I'm doing, or I can CHOOSE to do what I CAN. This is so important! When we are resisting it FEELS like we have no control or that we can't do anything about a situation. Well, we always have choice and we absolutely can do something.
So, what I'm choosing today is to write this out, acknowledge how I'm feeling and then make a decision about what I CAN do today. What I can do is embrace and lean into the situation that I want to be different. I know, this doesn't seem ideal, however, it will relieve the irritation and stress that comes with resisting where you are.
When we resist where, or who we are, we miss opportunities. The next step for me today is to spend some time looking at what opportunities I'm missing by resisting. I can already see some of them. This will lead me to identifying more of what I CAN do instead of focusing on what I think I can't do.
I'm sure I will arrive at this place again and again until I can fully embrace where I am. I'm practicing and will continue to practice until I have it down.
Where in your life are you resisting? What is it doing to you? What CAN you do instead? Please share with me your experiences.
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Vicki, thank you for being so open and honest. You are an inspiration. You were born an original, and you live as an original.
Thank you so much! What an incredible compliment.
When you say "lean into the situation" – what does that mean? Roll with it? I have similar struggles happening and am figuring out how to deal with my resistance.
What I man by “lean into the situation” is to stop resisting it. Stop trying to change it or move past it. Rather than just tolerate it, lean into it. Really embrace where you are and what you are feeling. I find that the minute I lean in and stop resisting, everything becomes more clear.
Well, they say the first step in realizing you have a problem.
You found your calling – now kick the ass of that "Resistance" thing.
You are very self aware. Sometimes I wonder if that is a curse or a gift to be as aware as you are, ya know? I would love to live my life in total "ignorance" Bliss like Mr. Magoo, but unfortunately my inner voice does not allow for that. I can see from your blog you are the same way.
Thanks for always being so tranparent on your blog. That is what makes you an awesome coach is you are honest and open about your own "resistance" and don't act like you have all of the answers and are "perfect" like you see with some coaches.
Can't wait for the next blog post, VIcki,
Thanks, Chrystal! I used to think I wanted to be completely ignorant but I have found that I move through the trying times in my life much faster when I’m self-aware. I love personal growth and development! I use my blog not only to share with others but to process my own feelings and emotions. My hope is that someone else will read it and see themselves and know they are not alone.