Everyone wants some kind of success. What kind of success are you striving for and why don’t you have it yet? Maybe it is success with your relationship, your family, your job, your business, your life in general. Why aren’t you where you want to be? It could be because of one or more of these success killers. I’ll share 3 of them with you here. Are any of them a part of your life? If so, it may be holding you back from having the success you want.
Success killer #1 Perfectionism!
Do you agonize over every little detail of a project? Do you start and never finish because it isn’t perfect? Do you sometimes wish you could do something but don’t even start because you know it won’t be perfect? I can so relate to this! If I didn’t think I could be the best at something, I didn’t even bother trying it. If I thought I had a shot at being the best (perfect), I would give it a shot. I am embarrassed to say that I quit more than once because I didn’t think I could be the best. That is what fear does to us. What I do now is strive for my best; for excellence, not perfection. Choose to embrace your humanity. Your perceived flaws and imperfections allow you to connect with other people, whereas the pursuit of perfection isolates you from people. Don’t get stuck waiting for it to be perfect. DO IT NOW!
Success killer #2: Obsessing over your to-do list!
We tend to use up much of our energy thinking about the items on our to-do list. We spend all that energy thinking about everything but not actually doing. Holding all of your unfinished business in your head is a sure energy drainer. Are you guilty of this one? If so, I challenge you to choose 3 and only 3 items from that long list today and commit to completing them. Don’t worry about all the other items. When you experience how great it feels and how it boosts your confidence to complete 3, you’ll move on to completing more. Try it!
Success killer #3: Letting criticism make you doubt yourself.
This is a tough one. When someone doesn’t agree with you or plain tells you you’re wrong or crazy, what does it do to you? For most of us it makes us doubt our self, our sanity, or our ability to make good choices for ourselves. It can cause you to stay still and not attempt something new or challenging. Most naysayers have your best interest at heart. The problem is they are filtering their opinion through their own fear. They don’t want to see you fail or get hurt so they will encourage you to stay right where you are. In your comfort zone! Here is what you can choose to remember: You have all the answers you need! You know what is best for you! When that voice of self-doubt is whispering in your ear because someone disagreed with you or criticized you, remind yourself it is their fear speaking, not your intuition. Go on, get out of your comfort zone and do something that scares you!
Let me know what you think of these. This is 3 of many success killers I have identified. Want to hear more?
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My biggest success killer is picking the easy tasks, or ALLOWING myself to indulge in the reward before doing the work…
Wow! I was just talking to my husband about this. #1 helped me the most because I believe that if you’re not going to do it right, don’t do it at all. This is the precise reason why I haven’t met my weight loss goal. Thanks a lot.
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