Have you ever been fired? I got fired for doing my job.
As a coach, my job is to help you see what’s working in your life and what isn’t. So you can change what you want to change. Change can’t happen if you can’t see clearly.
A client fired me, not for being incompetent or lazy, but for doing my job. I was basically fired for insubordination.
Synonyms: insubordinate, rebellious, mutinous, factious, seditious
In opposition to and usually in defiance of established authority. Insubordinate implies failure or refusal to recognize or submit to the authority of a superior: was fired for being insubordinate.
I admit it. I’m in opposition to and in defiance of the established authority of fear. When you submit to fear, you let it tell you what to do. You let it make decisions for you (bad ones). You let it be the authority in your life. I did it too. For a long time.
Fear drives blame and excuses. Fear causes misunderstandings. Fear creates paranoia and frustration. Fear causes you to judge others. Fear causes you to tell unfunny jokes in an effort to get noticed.
In the words of Dr. Phil, ‘how’s that workin for ya?’
I’m tired of submitting to fear. I’m fed up with fear being my boss.
I got fired because my client wanted me to listen to his story of how people at work were sabotaging him. He wanted me to hear the whole back story so I would see how everyone misunderstands him. He wanted me to agree with him when he told me that the people he works with are lazy idiots. He wanted me to tell him it’s everyone else, and he didn’t need to take any responsibility. He wanted me to sympathize with him and tell him how to make everyone else change.
I can’t do that. I can’t and won’t do it because I know that YOU are the only person you can control. Talking about your co-workers and the idiotic decisions management makes and how you’re over worked and under paid will keep you stuck right where you are – even if these things are true.
I’m not the coach for everyone. If you want someone to agree with your beliefs and help you continue to submit to the authority of fear, go talk to your best friend. My job is to help you see how those old beliefs and thoughts got you to where you are today.
If you want to get somewhere else, you have to be willing to change those beliefs and thoughts. You have to be willing to be insubordinate when it comes to the authority of fear.
I got fired so you don’t have to. So you don’t have to feel misunderstood or sabotaged or passed up for promotion again. So you can walk into the room like a boss and stop feeling like a fraud.
If you’re still reading, you’re probably someone who has the willingness, tenacity and courage to make big changes.
Stick around if:
*you’re willing (or even willing to be willing) to question what you think and believe
*you want to tell fear to f*off
*you want to know how to talk in a way that makes people listen
*you want to know how to make people want to be you
*you want to be recognized as the bad ass you are
Hit the X in the top right corner if:
*you’re not ready to stop blaming other people
*you’re not willing to drop your excuses
*you’re not willing to question your thoughts and beliefs
*you’re not willing to be the boss in your own life
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Here’s to questioning everything,